I have no idea why he is dressed like that. Perhaps he wants to audition for Jamie Foxx's Wanda character on a revue of "In Living Color."
And to think I was actually looking forward to baseball coming back.
Tuesday, February 28, 2006
Barry Bonds Has Lost His Fucking Mind
I have no idea why he is dressed like that. Perhaps he wants to audition for Jamie Foxx's Wanda character on a revue of "In Living Color."
And to think I was actually looking forward to baseball coming back.
Sunday, February 26, 2006
Say Oops Upside Your Head
This is what Shane Mosley did to Fernando Vargas last night, and it's the minimum amount of damage necessary to make a fight worth $45 on pay-per-view...
Trailer Trash--The Other White Meat
My aunt, cutting a piece of chicken for me at dinner today: "Dre, do you like white meat?"
Her husband, laughing: "Hell, ain't you noticed? That's the only kind of meat he likes!"
Her husband, laughing: "Hell, ain't you noticed? That's the only kind of meat he likes!"
Saturday, February 18, 2006
CEDA Redux?
I just finished my first week with J.P. Morgan Chase, and color me unimpressed. Actually, calling it CEDA Part Deux is a little harsh, because I can't say for sure whether Chase's lack of organization is because there's so much to do that little things fall through the cracks or because they don't give a shit, like at CEDA. But make no mistake, at least in the lockbox department, there are some administrative problems that make me wonder if I really want to be employed at this place.
First, the paycheck situation...it's bad enough that in order to sign up for Direct Deposit with the bank that I work for and have had an account with for eleven years, I couldn't turn in the paperwork at work; instead I had to go to a branch somewhere and sign up through them, which doesn't make sense to me. Actually, most things are done online with Chase. When I become eligible for benefits in about 14 years, I have to go online to choose those options also. (Because I'm only a part-time hire at 35 hours per week, I'm not eligible for benefits until 90 days after my hire date.) But then the actual paychecks came, and we were not a happy group of new hires. We were told that because we all started on the same day, February 13, and checks were going to be issued on the 15th and last day of every month, we would all have checks on February 15th, and that they would represent two days of work according to our schedules, not representing the actual hours that we were there Monday and Tuesday. Those hours, if there were any discrepancies, would be worked out on our next check. So how come some people got paid for eight hours, some for 14 hours, some for 6 hours, etc? For instance, I got seven hours, even though not only was I there on the 13th and 14th for about 13 hours collectively, but I was scheduled to be there for 14 hours, which they told us was the criteria to determine how many hours our first checks would pay. So either 13 or 14 hours on my check would have been understandable, but seven?? Where did they pull that number from? At least it was correctly direct deposited, as I did go to a branch on the 14th after work and get that taken care of. But already, my colleagues and I have to closely monitor payroll and make sure that they credit us for the time that we are there. Not a good start.
On the first day, Monday, we had to go to a different building than where we will be working in order to take a one-day orientation session with a woman who was nice enough, but had an accent and didn't seem to have mastered English quite yet. Naturally, she was the person to go to throughout the week. When we did start working at our actual workplace, since we can't take book bags on the transaction floor because there are live checks everywhere and they don't want one to "accidentally" fall into someone's belongings, the woman was the person with a key to a walk-in closet where we eight or nine (because one showed up for the first time on Wednesday) trainees had to hang our coats and put any bags that we brought with us. So when I wanted to get something from my bag, it was her that had to open the closet for me, and it seemed that a sentence as simple as "Can you open the closet for me?" at times was too much grammar for her to handle. She also handled our administrative questions, meaning that we are still unclear as to when and where we get the two ID cards that we have to have on us at all times. Many questions were answered by her with a look skyward and a blank stare, followed by something like "I don't know, go ask your supervisor," which sucked for me because my supervisor was off Tuesday and yesterday, and I really did want to ask her several things. But the topper was when we trainees flipped through the 39-question skills assessment test that we had to take at the end of the week and noticed grammar problems in the test such as, "List in order of priority how the four (5) header cards should be used." Confused? There were seven header cards to choose from. Even more confused? Me too. Guess who wrote the test? Yep, the lady who doesn't know English very well. How do I know? Because when I showed her the question and asked her what exactly does the question want me to do, she responded, "Oh, I should rewrite question, I not write it very clear." Sigh.
The second person we worked with all week was a big black guy who really did look like Ruben Studdard. I mean, "Karen" and others used to call me Ruben when he first became famous, but I really don't look like him, I'm just a fat nigga, so they thought it cute to call me Ruben. But this guy really does look like him. There were four, then five people (one of them started Wednesday instead of Monday) who were hired as keyers because they did better on their numeric typing test than I did apparently, and every morning those people would go train with the woman who didn't know English, and the four of us left would go to train with Ruben because he was the coach for what is called workup, or the process of taking the sorted mail and opening the envelope and "working up" the contents into piles of checks, material, and empty envelopes, and binding them together with rubber bands or paper clips. That's what we leftovers were assigned to do, workup. We all interviewed for keying, but we didn't test well enough I guess, so we were thrown into workup with the other rejects. I suppose I should go take the keying test again, since keyers are paid more and since, well, that's what I interviewed for. Anyway, Ruben was nice himself, kinda quiet like me, a couple of years younger than me, always cracking jokes in between long yawns and stretches because he works an evening job after he leaves Chase. But some of the discrepancies between what our training manuals and folders told us to do and what he was telling us to do were a little disconcerting to me. For instance, he constantly told us to bind the header cards behind the checks even though all of our books were telling us that the cards should be binded in front of the checks. In general, he didn't seem to take it as a big deal that he was teaching us things that may be done in a different manner once we get on the floor. But on the other hand, he has worked on the floor for six years, so if anyone knows how it's done on the floor, it would be him. I just felt that the training manuals should match the advice given by the coach. Call me crazy. Yesterday was the last day of our training week, so Ruben gave each of us four workup trainees one-on-one personal evaluations at the end of the day. He could recommend us, or recommend us with reservations, or not recommend us. He recommended me with reservations. Was he concerned about my work speed or quality? Nope, he didn't like my attitude because I made it clear that I wasn't thrilled with how Chase did things, or as I bluntly put it, "This place sucks." He told me that he didn't know how I could possibly achieve anything at Chase if I already don't like it there. He said that it gets worse once you get on the floor, because it's so busy that you can go an awful long time before you find someone to clear up any questions you may have. And I always have a lot of questions because I want to make sure I'm doing something right before I do it. He said that if I don't like it now, imagine getting on the floor and being suspended because you were suspected of stealing checks even though you didn't do it. He didn't say if that had happened to him, but after I left, I thought about it and I realized that he contradicted himself. He had basically suggested that I should look for somewhere else to work if I disliked Chase so much, but if he really did know someone who was falsely accused of stealing or, worse, if he was falsely accused of stealing, then how could he possibly continue to work for them? He does it for the same reason that I will stay there--because it's a motherfucking job and it ain't easy to get one out here. I understood what he was trying to tell me, but I have ten years of experience at CBOE tiptoeing around idiots who don't care what's going on and staying above the fray. I can hold my own. And I will rip shit up once I get on the floor. My simmering hatred for Chase will not stop me from exceeding expectations at my job. And you can take that to the bank. (Just not Chase Bank, they might mishandle your money.)
Another problem I have is the quality of people that I'm going to work with. This is what the floor looked like the couple of times we walked through: Lots of black women with headphones on (you are allowed to listen to a headset while you work) doing what's assigned to them and not interacting very much. And who out of this group am I supposed to go to when I come across a problem? Ruben warned me to watch out because they simply don't hire many guys to do this job. And sure enough, most of the men that I saw on the floor were in the mailroom. And don't get me started on the women that I was hired with. There were three black women along with me training to do workup this week. One was nice enough, actually a former management type getting back into the workforce so she was trying to coach me not to be so abrasive and act more professional if I wanted to move up in the company past workup. And the other two were stereotypical finger-snapping, gum-chewing sistas, but at least one seemed to want to learn the position. The other one--wow. She admitted that she was hired because a friend at Chase hooked her up. She complained about feeling sick nonstop every day, but didn't hesitate to crack a joke and act silly when we weren't working. She even told us that this was her second attempt at training, since she dropped out when she was hired at the end of January because she was "feeling sick" then too. Our training consisted of working up actual material that wasn't due to be processed until the next day, so I would never jump on her for doing things too slowly, but it's fucking up and doing it wrong that makes me mad because it then falls on the rest of us to do her job right since it's obvious that she could care less about doing it right. Every check has to have material with it, even if it's just the envelope that it came in. We don't get checks with no envelope. So why did she finish working up a batch and have five checks sitting in front of her with no material? This was at the end of the day Wednesday, so she would have to stay after our departure time of 3:30P and remedy her error, and she was extremely pissed about that because I guess she felt that she should be free to leave and let someone else figure out how she fucked up. How is someone else going to figure out your fuck-up? You worked the batch, you figure out where you went wrong. And it's not like you can leave the work sitting in your fictional in-box for an unlimited amount of time. All this work has deadline times when the client wants his shit done, even if it's the next day. The former management woman actually stayed late and helped her figure out her error, and to that I say, God bless her for being a big person and going beyond the call of duty, but I can't imagine having to get my shit straight and then go fix someone else's fuck-ups. I actually wondered if Ruben was going to hold it against me and the other woman who left at 3:30 that we didn't hang around and help the chick who didn't care about her work. He never mentioned it, but I'm sure it didn't look good. But that's something that pissed me off at CBOE--people with the same position as me, sometimes getting paid more than me, and doing a worse job. A white girl named Jessica (it's not a black woman problem, it's an I-don't-give-a-fuck-about-my-work-quality attitude problem) at CBOE was hired as a quote reporter in the same class as me, getting the same starting pay as me, but she wasn't nearly as good as me, so she was assigned to a very easy crowd while I was sent to a busier crowd and struggled a bit at the beginning. So six months later, guess who got a bigger raise because her review was more positive since she didn't have as many errors because she was in a dead crowd?? And was she trying to improve and prepare to be moved to a busier crowd? Why should she? And why do I have a sinking feeling that I'm about to see that happen all over again? Fucking bullshit politics.
Those salty profanities that I toss around like nothing at least made me memorable among my fellow trainees. "I ain't ever gonna forget you Dre," one of them told me yesterday as we prepared to go home for the day. It was a wild week. It seemed like I was determined to not be an anonymous guy playing the background like I was at CBOE. It was a new beginning and I guess I wanted to make an impact. It's not like I set out to be the guy pointing out discrepancies and calling out mistakes and seeming like I think I know it all. It just happened. I asked the three women what they thought my age was, and they all thought that I was late 30s-early 40s because I carried myself as someone who's been there, done that. (I'm trying to take it as a compliment...I sure the fuck don't think I look that old.) Ruben told me to cool it with the potty mouth when I get on the floor, but I'm not retarded. I know better than to use curse words around actual personnel. I was waiting to have a day where I can't keep my eyes open and start falling asleep during training, because I had to go to school Tuesday night, Wednesday night, and Thursday night, meaning I was getting home between 9:30 and 10:00 on those nights, going to bed after midnight, and waking up around 5:15A the next day in order to get downtown at 7A. (And yes, I was late most of the days, a half-hour late on Wednesday because I turned off my alarm three minutes before it was going to go off and then nodded off for an hour. It should be better next week because I don't have to start until 8A.) But I stayed alert and smart-alecky every day. I slept for almost ten hours last night, but I expected to do that since I didn't have to go anywhere this morning. But it was very interesting, I think that I felt anonymous at CBOE even though I was there for ten years, and subconsciously, I think that I set out to be a unique, confident, self-assured person from day one at Chase, not afraid to ask questions, not afraid to speak my mind, or "keep it real," as the trainee with all the fuck-ups said about me. I surprised myself with some of the things that I said. When I got on the floor to plug our electric staplers into the power strip, I said to the very proper and professional former management woman, "I'm going down under the table near you now, and I don't want any sexual harassment accusations. Heh heh." She looked horrified at the thought. I regretted saying that as soon as I said it, but hell, I didn't mean anything by it. But when I left CBOE, I felt like no one remembered me or cared that I was gone. I suppose that I want the people at Chase to remember me, positively or otherwise. I even spoke up more during my classes this week, and I hardly ever speak during my classes. Maybe I really am breaking out of my shell.
And finally, you may remember how I openly flaunted CEDA's no-jeans rule by wearing a different color pair of jeans every single day, waiting for someone to call me on it, but on one ever did because, duh, whether someone is wearing jeans, khakis, or a camisole is not an important concern for any normal human being. Well, it's right there in our Chase manuals--no jeans OF ANY COLOR except on weekends. My response? There was no school Monday because of President's Day, so I went to Casual Male and bought three pair of classy-looking polyester/rayon blends. The difference? CEDA treated all of us like we were disposable, useless sheep, existing only to do this assignment quickly so that we can be shown the door. I reacted accordingly. Chase may have some administrative issues, but they have treated us well thus far, making us feel important, like we are wanted. So many complete strangers came up to us and welcomed us to the "Chase family" this week. My supervisor was extremely nice to me, acknowledging me by name when we met by chance in the lunchroom even though I had never met her or introduced myself before that moment. The guy who gave me my second interview saw me and called me by my name and said hi when I walked the floor for the first time Wednesday. Chase treated all of us new hires to a free box lunch yesterday. I am being treated like a valued member of the staff, and I am dressing and trying to act accordingly. So to CEDA I would say: I'm not always an immature asshole...only when I feel that it's deserved.
First, the paycheck situation...it's bad enough that in order to sign up for Direct Deposit with the bank that I work for and have had an account with for eleven years, I couldn't turn in the paperwork at work; instead I had to go to a branch somewhere and sign up through them, which doesn't make sense to me. Actually, most things are done online with Chase. When I become eligible for benefits in about 14 years, I have to go online to choose those options also. (Because I'm only a part-time hire at 35 hours per week, I'm not eligible for benefits until 90 days after my hire date.) But then the actual paychecks came, and we were not a happy group of new hires. We were told that because we all started on the same day, February 13, and checks were going to be issued on the 15th and last day of every month, we would all have checks on February 15th, and that they would represent two days of work according to our schedules, not representing the actual hours that we were there Monday and Tuesday. Those hours, if there were any discrepancies, would be worked out on our next check. So how come some people got paid for eight hours, some for 14 hours, some for 6 hours, etc? For instance, I got seven hours, even though not only was I there on the 13th and 14th for about 13 hours collectively, but I was scheduled to be there for 14 hours, which they told us was the criteria to determine how many hours our first checks would pay. So either 13 or 14 hours on my check would have been understandable, but seven?? Where did they pull that number from? At least it was correctly direct deposited, as I did go to a branch on the 14th after work and get that taken care of. But already, my colleagues and I have to closely monitor payroll and make sure that they credit us for the time that we are there. Not a good start.
On the first day, Monday, we had to go to a different building than where we will be working in order to take a one-day orientation session with a woman who was nice enough, but had an accent and didn't seem to have mastered English quite yet. Naturally, she was the person to go to throughout the week. When we did start working at our actual workplace, since we can't take book bags on the transaction floor because there are live checks everywhere and they don't want one to "accidentally" fall into someone's belongings, the woman was the person with a key to a walk-in closet where we eight or nine (because one showed up for the first time on Wednesday) trainees had to hang our coats and put any bags that we brought with us. So when I wanted to get something from my bag, it was her that had to open the closet for me, and it seemed that a sentence as simple as "Can you open the closet for me?" at times was too much grammar for her to handle. She also handled our administrative questions, meaning that we are still unclear as to when and where we get the two ID cards that we have to have on us at all times. Many questions were answered by her with a look skyward and a blank stare, followed by something like "I don't know, go ask your supervisor," which sucked for me because my supervisor was off Tuesday and yesterday, and I really did want to ask her several things. But the topper was when we trainees flipped through the 39-question skills assessment test that we had to take at the end of the week and noticed grammar problems in the test such as, "List in order of priority how the four (5) header cards should be used." Confused? There were seven header cards to choose from. Even more confused? Me too. Guess who wrote the test? Yep, the lady who doesn't know English very well. How do I know? Because when I showed her the question and asked her what exactly does the question want me to do, she responded, "Oh, I should rewrite question, I not write it very clear." Sigh.
The second person we worked with all week was a big black guy who really did look like Ruben Studdard. I mean, "Karen" and others used to call me Ruben when he first became famous, but I really don't look like him, I'm just a fat nigga, so they thought it cute to call me Ruben. But this guy really does look like him. There were four, then five people (one of them started Wednesday instead of Monday) who were hired as keyers because they did better on their numeric typing test than I did apparently, and every morning those people would go train with the woman who didn't know English, and the four of us left would go to train with Ruben because he was the coach for what is called workup, or the process of taking the sorted mail and opening the envelope and "working up" the contents into piles of checks, material, and empty envelopes, and binding them together with rubber bands or paper clips. That's what we leftovers were assigned to do, workup. We all interviewed for keying, but we didn't test well enough I guess, so we were thrown into workup with the other rejects. I suppose I should go take the keying test again, since keyers are paid more and since, well, that's what I interviewed for. Anyway, Ruben was nice himself, kinda quiet like me, a couple of years younger than me, always cracking jokes in between long yawns and stretches because he works an evening job after he leaves Chase. But some of the discrepancies between what our training manuals and folders told us to do and what he was telling us to do were a little disconcerting to me. For instance, he constantly told us to bind the header cards behind the checks even though all of our books were telling us that the cards should be binded in front of the checks. In general, he didn't seem to take it as a big deal that he was teaching us things that may be done in a different manner once we get on the floor. But on the other hand, he has worked on the floor for six years, so if anyone knows how it's done on the floor, it would be him. I just felt that the training manuals should match the advice given by the coach. Call me crazy. Yesterday was the last day of our training week, so Ruben gave each of us four workup trainees one-on-one personal evaluations at the end of the day. He could recommend us, or recommend us with reservations, or not recommend us. He recommended me with reservations. Was he concerned about my work speed or quality? Nope, he didn't like my attitude because I made it clear that I wasn't thrilled with how Chase did things, or as I bluntly put it, "This place sucks." He told me that he didn't know how I could possibly achieve anything at Chase if I already don't like it there. He said that it gets worse once you get on the floor, because it's so busy that you can go an awful long time before you find someone to clear up any questions you may have. And I always have a lot of questions because I want to make sure I'm doing something right before I do it. He said that if I don't like it now, imagine getting on the floor and being suspended because you were suspected of stealing checks even though you didn't do it. He didn't say if that had happened to him, but after I left, I thought about it and I realized that he contradicted himself. He had basically suggested that I should look for somewhere else to work if I disliked Chase so much, but if he really did know someone who was falsely accused of stealing or, worse, if he was falsely accused of stealing, then how could he possibly continue to work for them? He does it for the same reason that I will stay there--because it's a motherfucking job and it ain't easy to get one out here. I understood what he was trying to tell me, but I have ten years of experience at CBOE tiptoeing around idiots who don't care what's going on and staying above the fray. I can hold my own. And I will rip shit up once I get on the floor. My simmering hatred for Chase will not stop me from exceeding expectations at my job. And you can take that to the bank. (Just not Chase Bank, they might mishandle your money.)
Another problem I have is the quality of people that I'm going to work with. This is what the floor looked like the couple of times we walked through: Lots of black women with headphones on (you are allowed to listen to a headset while you work) doing what's assigned to them and not interacting very much. And who out of this group am I supposed to go to when I come across a problem? Ruben warned me to watch out because they simply don't hire many guys to do this job. And sure enough, most of the men that I saw on the floor were in the mailroom. And don't get me started on the women that I was hired with. There were three black women along with me training to do workup this week. One was nice enough, actually a former management type getting back into the workforce so she was trying to coach me not to be so abrasive and act more professional if I wanted to move up in the company past workup. And the other two were stereotypical finger-snapping, gum-chewing sistas, but at least one seemed to want to learn the position. The other one--wow. She admitted that she was hired because a friend at Chase hooked her up. She complained about feeling sick nonstop every day, but didn't hesitate to crack a joke and act silly when we weren't working. She even told us that this was her second attempt at training, since she dropped out when she was hired at the end of January because she was "feeling sick" then too. Our training consisted of working up actual material that wasn't due to be processed until the next day, so I would never jump on her for doing things too slowly, but it's fucking up and doing it wrong that makes me mad because it then falls on the rest of us to do her job right since it's obvious that she could care less about doing it right. Every check has to have material with it, even if it's just the envelope that it came in. We don't get checks with no envelope. So why did she finish working up a batch and have five checks sitting in front of her with no material? This was at the end of the day Wednesday, so she would have to stay after our departure time of 3:30P and remedy her error, and she was extremely pissed about that because I guess she felt that she should be free to leave and let someone else figure out how she fucked up. How is someone else going to figure out your fuck-up? You worked the batch, you figure out where you went wrong. And it's not like you can leave the work sitting in your fictional in-box for an unlimited amount of time. All this work has deadline times when the client wants his shit done, even if it's the next day. The former management woman actually stayed late and helped her figure out her error, and to that I say, God bless her for being a big person and going beyond the call of duty, but I can't imagine having to get my shit straight and then go fix someone else's fuck-ups. I actually wondered if Ruben was going to hold it against me and the other woman who left at 3:30 that we didn't hang around and help the chick who didn't care about her work. He never mentioned it, but I'm sure it didn't look good. But that's something that pissed me off at CBOE--people with the same position as me, sometimes getting paid more than me, and doing a worse job. A white girl named Jessica (it's not a black woman problem, it's an I-don't-give-a-fuck-about-my-work-quality attitude problem) at CBOE was hired as a quote reporter in the same class as me, getting the same starting pay as me, but she wasn't nearly as good as me, so she was assigned to a very easy crowd while I was sent to a busier crowd and struggled a bit at the beginning. So six months later, guess who got a bigger raise because her review was more positive since she didn't have as many errors because she was in a dead crowd?? And was she trying to improve and prepare to be moved to a busier crowd? Why should she? And why do I have a sinking feeling that I'm about to see that happen all over again? Fucking bullshit politics.
Those salty profanities that I toss around like nothing at least made me memorable among my fellow trainees. "I ain't ever gonna forget you Dre," one of them told me yesterday as we prepared to go home for the day. It was a wild week. It seemed like I was determined to not be an anonymous guy playing the background like I was at CBOE. It was a new beginning and I guess I wanted to make an impact. It's not like I set out to be the guy pointing out discrepancies and calling out mistakes and seeming like I think I know it all. It just happened. I asked the three women what they thought my age was, and they all thought that I was late 30s-early 40s because I carried myself as someone who's been there, done that. (I'm trying to take it as a compliment...I sure the fuck don't think I look that old.) Ruben told me to cool it with the potty mouth when I get on the floor, but I'm not retarded. I know better than to use curse words around actual personnel. I was waiting to have a day where I can't keep my eyes open and start falling asleep during training, because I had to go to school Tuesday night, Wednesday night, and Thursday night, meaning I was getting home between 9:30 and 10:00 on those nights, going to bed after midnight, and waking up around 5:15A the next day in order to get downtown at 7A. (And yes, I was late most of the days, a half-hour late on Wednesday because I turned off my alarm three minutes before it was going to go off and then nodded off for an hour. It should be better next week because I don't have to start until 8A.) But I stayed alert and smart-alecky every day. I slept for almost ten hours last night, but I expected to do that since I didn't have to go anywhere this morning. But it was very interesting, I think that I felt anonymous at CBOE even though I was there for ten years, and subconsciously, I think that I set out to be a unique, confident, self-assured person from day one at Chase, not afraid to ask questions, not afraid to speak my mind, or "keep it real," as the trainee with all the fuck-ups said about me. I surprised myself with some of the things that I said. When I got on the floor to plug our electric staplers into the power strip, I said to the very proper and professional former management woman, "I'm going down under the table near you now, and I don't want any sexual harassment accusations. Heh heh." She looked horrified at the thought. I regretted saying that as soon as I said it, but hell, I didn't mean anything by it. But when I left CBOE, I felt like no one remembered me or cared that I was gone. I suppose that I want the people at Chase to remember me, positively or otherwise. I even spoke up more during my classes this week, and I hardly ever speak during my classes. Maybe I really am breaking out of my shell.
And finally, you may remember how I openly flaunted CEDA's no-jeans rule by wearing a different color pair of jeans every single day, waiting for someone to call me on it, but on one ever did because, duh, whether someone is wearing jeans, khakis, or a camisole is not an important concern for any normal human being. Well, it's right there in our Chase manuals--no jeans OF ANY COLOR except on weekends. My response? There was no school Monday because of President's Day, so I went to Casual Male and bought three pair of classy-looking polyester/rayon blends. The difference? CEDA treated all of us like we were disposable, useless sheep, existing only to do this assignment quickly so that we can be shown the door. I reacted accordingly. Chase may have some administrative issues, but they have treated us well thus far, making us feel important, like we are wanted. So many complete strangers came up to us and welcomed us to the "Chase family" this week. My supervisor was extremely nice to me, acknowledging me by name when we met by chance in the lunchroom even though I had never met her or introduced myself before that moment. The guy who gave me my second interview saw me and called me by my name and said hi when I walked the floor for the first time Wednesday. Chase treated all of us new hires to a free box lunch yesterday. I am being treated like a valued member of the staff, and I am dressing and trying to act accordingly. So to CEDA I would say: I'm not always an immature asshole...only when I feel that it's deserved.
Monday, February 13, 2006
Friday, February 10, 2006
Conversation
Me, on a rant to a female friend: "I'd be much better off mentally if it wasn't for the dirty, disgusting, trash-bag hos I've dated in my life..."
Friend, with wide eyes, amazed: "...So what does that make you?!?"
That was last Saturday. I'm still trying to answer the question.
In a related story, "Shelley" keeps calling and trying to be friends, and I'm sick of ignoring her calls. I shouldn't be afraid to tell her that I don't want to be her friend because she pretended to be interested in me in order to get my money and that's not my definition of "friend." But I am afraid. I guess it proves that you can shit on me and use me all you want, but I still can't call you on it and push you out of my life because I'm so lonely. Maybe I like seeing Shelley's number come up on my caller ID. Maybe I like pretending that a woman is calling me because she would like to speak to me and socialize with me, even though I know that would never happen. I'm glad I start my new job Monday for no other reason than I won't have so much time to sit and ponder what a fucking loser I am.
Friend, with wide eyes, amazed: "...So what does that make you?!?"
That was last Saturday. I'm still trying to answer the question.
In a related story, "Shelley" keeps calling and trying to be friends, and I'm sick of ignoring her calls. I shouldn't be afraid to tell her that I don't want to be her friend because she pretended to be interested in me in order to get my money and that's not my definition of "friend." But I am afraid. I guess it proves that you can shit on me and use me all you want, but I still can't call you on it and push you out of my life because I'm so lonely. Maybe I like seeing Shelley's number come up on my caller ID. Maybe I like pretending that a woman is calling me because she would like to speak to me and socialize with me, even though I know that would never happen. I'm glad I start my new job Monday for no other reason than I won't have so much time to sit and ponder what a fucking loser I am.
Monday, February 06, 2006
Darkest Before The Dawn
What a last few days it has been. I'm finally moved out of the old apartment and into a basement just outside of Elmwood Park. My aunt warned me that it was just an unfinished basement, but I wasn't quite ready for it. It's cold and damp, very dungeon-like, but unlike most of my ex-girlfriends, I don't get off on dungeons. I don't know what the people on the 1st floor were doing Saturday night, but all of a sudden, water started dripping from the ceiling onto one of my many unopened cardboard boxes, and I could do nothing to stop it. So yeah, it's a trip. It's where my life has led me though, so I just have to deal.
Last Wednesday morning, I put on my new suit and went to the second interview for the data processing job with J.P. Morgan Chase knowing that I should have been moved out the night before and that I had to work double time to get moved out later that day. My nervousness showed up when I spent ten minutes looking for the address even though I brought my datebook with the correct address with me. But I settled down and gave my usual calm if not boring interview, then I got out of there. They said that I would hear from them in a week if they wanted to hire me. Then I went home and packed and wrapped nonstop until my dad arrived with some guy to help with the move around 4P. We went to U-Haul a few blocks away and rented a sizable truck, then they had dinner for about an hour while I continued to pack. But I ran out of time and strength, so we had to come back the next day. The bad thing about moving the stuff that we did move is that I got nauseous and threw up around 9P, even though I had not had anything unusual to eat, and I was very weak from that point on. And the guy my dad brought was an older skinny guy, late 40s to early 50s, and he wound up having to carry the load because I wasn't much help. That pissed me off. I hate throwing up, especially when I don't know why. We got the U-Haul to the basement after midnight, and a younger guy who lives on the 1st floor of my building was on his way to the store and decided to help us unload, so that wound up taking only 40 minutes. We gave him our cell phone numbers and he told us that he would help us the next day. But he never called. So Thursday was worse, because the older guy was unavailable and instead my dad brought an older woman, and she had to lift the heavy stuff with me because my dad was sick. She was tough and hung in there, but she dropped a case of tapes and broke it. She complained about her back later, and I felt bad because I'm sure my dad didn't tell her that she would have to help me move when he brought her there. He told me that she was there to help me with cleaning the apartment once I moved everything out of there. The worst feeling was when my dad asked several times why I didn't have any male buddies helping out. I had to tell him that I have no male buddies, but I didn't have an answer why. I guess it's because I see guys as a threat. I can't enjoy some dude's company because I'm always comparing myself to him and wondering why he can get a good woman and I can't, or if he's single, which one a woman would choose if it was between him and me. I would stop doing that because I know it's unhealthy, but I can't. It sucks to know that I'm not good enough for most of the world, but it's torture to keep measuring myself and reaffirming the fact.
I tried to write a note Thursday night to my landlady and leave it on my kitchen table along with my keys. I wanted to tell her that I would definitely be back that weekend with a friend to clean the apartment, but the two pens that I tried to use to write the note both ran out of ink. So I just left my keys and took the one hour bus ride back to Elmwood Park. The little mini-fridge that the previous "tenant" left in the basement doesn't work. I plugged it in and turned it all the way up Wednesday, but as of this moment, it's still not cold. So I've been drinking warm soda and juice since I moved in. Of course, if I wanted something to get cold, I could leave it on the concrete floor, and it would get cold quickly. I cannot stress this enough: It's an unfinished basement, and it is COLD. I've got several layers of sweatclothes on when I try to go to sleep, along with two comforters and a blanket on the bed. I'm still sleeping on a mattress sitting on eight milk crates, but I'm no longer on carpeting but rather on the aforementioned concrete floor, so there's a lot of shifting and sliding whenever I try to get into bed and during sleep. I'm probably going to have to readjust the crates daily. You can fill in the blanks in your mind what the rest of the place looks like. You've all seen a dungeon before--dark, dank, looks like it's freezing even when it's not, spider webs everywhere...all it's missing is a wooden torture rack, some handcuffs, and a mistress holding a cat-o-nine tails. There are some signs that someone once lived there, such as the posters on the wall and the many hangers of clothes dangling from the pipes. But it's still a dungeon. The dream I had the first night I slept down there was really fucked-up. Basically, I dreamed that I was at an airport with my family going on a family vacation, which we've never done before, and all of my ex-girlfriends kept walking past me in the terminal, then I saw some woman, I don't remember who, and I just had to be with her, so I traded in my ticket for one to go where she was going. Then a friend who worked with me at CEDA and who in real life helped me clean the old apartment Saturday showed up in tears, and I remembered that I had agreed to take a trip with her. So I tried to trade in my ticket again, and my uncle basically ripped me a new one, which he has done before in the past when I fuck up, and I woke up with that lovely feeling I seem to have of disappointing everybody and letting people down. That's a hell of a feeling to have after any dream; this time, I looked around after I woke up and realized that I'm 30 years old and living in someone's basement. Disappointment? Letting everyone down? That's an understatement. So yeah, I was feeling pretty low at that point.
But I've heard that it's always darkest before the dawn. The next day, Friday, I was lying in bed virtually all day because my body was sore from the move and because I didn't want to come from under the covers because I was freezing. I turned the ringer to my cell phone off at 3:30P and took a nap, then woke up an hour later to find that I had a message. It was Mary, the woman from Chase who gave me the first interview back on Thursday, Jan. 26. She offered me the job. I said yes. I screwed that up too, though, because she only offered me $10 per hour instead of the $11 she told me during the interview. I accepted a bit too soon. I asked her today if there was anything she could do about it, and she said she could write to the suits in HR and see if my request can be obligated, but that's it. I really don't care though. I got a fucking job! It's not minimum wage, so I'm not worried about an extra dollar an hour. That's what over a year of unemployment will do to you. It's Thursday through Monday from 8A-3:30P, allowing me Tuesday and Wednesday to do homework for my classes on those nights. I got the drug test and fingerprints done today, and I officially start next Monday.
I'm doing this blog entry at school because I still haven't gotten a connection for my phone line back at the dungeon; therefore I can't get on the internet. The phone company came out twice, but both times they told me that they only had to work outside and didn't have to come in, so I wasn't home. But Saturday, while I was cleaning the old apartment, the guy called me on my cell phone and told me that apparently I'm missing a wire and that they did have to get in to the basement to fix it. My play aunt and her daughter, who lived downstairs from me all 18 years of my childhood, live on the second floor of this building, so they would have a copy of my keys to let anyone in, except I haven't made a copy yet. The guy told me he would come back yesterday, when I would be home, but he faked me out. He said at about 3:30P that he would be there in an hour, but I never heard from him again, and he turned his cell phone off so I couldn't contact him. I had to call the company this morning and set up a whole new appointment, and they won't be back until Thursday. The good news is that DirecTV will be out tomorrow. Dungeon schmungeon--nigga's gotta have his phone line and cable. But I'm so happy to be employed again. I should have the money saved up by the time this semester is over in May to make a drama-free transition into a new apartment. I just have to remember to save a few hundred bucks for a moving crew. As I sat in the U-Haul with my dad Wednesday night, both forearm muscles and biceps as well as my stomach muscles severely cramping, hands swollen, shoulders hurting, fingers throbbing from being pinched between boxes and walls and furniture, nose and throat sore from all the dust, and feeling nauseous again, I told him as far as the next move: "Never again." I'm throwing out a lot of the stuff that I moved, and I'm hiring people to lift the rest of the shit. I freely admit--I'm soft as Pillsbury, and I am not going through this nightmare again.
Last Wednesday morning, I put on my new suit and went to the second interview for the data processing job with J.P. Morgan Chase knowing that I should have been moved out the night before and that I had to work double time to get moved out later that day. My nervousness showed up when I spent ten minutes looking for the address even though I brought my datebook with the correct address with me. But I settled down and gave my usual calm if not boring interview, then I got out of there. They said that I would hear from them in a week if they wanted to hire me. Then I went home and packed and wrapped nonstop until my dad arrived with some guy to help with the move around 4P. We went to U-Haul a few blocks away and rented a sizable truck, then they had dinner for about an hour while I continued to pack. But I ran out of time and strength, so we had to come back the next day. The bad thing about moving the stuff that we did move is that I got nauseous and threw up around 9P, even though I had not had anything unusual to eat, and I was very weak from that point on. And the guy my dad brought was an older skinny guy, late 40s to early 50s, and he wound up having to carry the load because I wasn't much help. That pissed me off. I hate throwing up, especially when I don't know why. We got the U-Haul to the basement after midnight, and a younger guy who lives on the 1st floor of my building was on his way to the store and decided to help us unload, so that wound up taking only 40 minutes. We gave him our cell phone numbers and he told us that he would help us the next day. But he never called. So Thursday was worse, because the older guy was unavailable and instead my dad brought an older woman, and she had to lift the heavy stuff with me because my dad was sick. She was tough and hung in there, but she dropped a case of tapes and broke it. She complained about her back later, and I felt bad because I'm sure my dad didn't tell her that she would have to help me move when he brought her there. He told me that she was there to help me with cleaning the apartment once I moved everything out of there. The worst feeling was when my dad asked several times why I didn't have any male buddies helping out. I had to tell him that I have no male buddies, but I didn't have an answer why. I guess it's because I see guys as a threat. I can't enjoy some dude's company because I'm always comparing myself to him and wondering why he can get a good woman and I can't, or if he's single, which one a woman would choose if it was between him and me. I would stop doing that because I know it's unhealthy, but I can't. It sucks to know that I'm not good enough for most of the world, but it's torture to keep measuring myself and reaffirming the fact.
I tried to write a note Thursday night to my landlady and leave it on my kitchen table along with my keys. I wanted to tell her that I would definitely be back that weekend with a friend to clean the apartment, but the two pens that I tried to use to write the note both ran out of ink. So I just left my keys and took the one hour bus ride back to Elmwood Park. The little mini-fridge that the previous "tenant" left in the basement doesn't work. I plugged it in and turned it all the way up Wednesday, but as of this moment, it's still not cold. So I've been drinking warm soda and juice since I moved in. Of course, if I wanted something to get cold, I could leave it on the concrete floor, and it would get cold quickly. I cannot stress this enough: It's an unfinished basement, and it is COLD. I've got several layers of sweatclothes on when I try to go to sleep, along with two comforters and a blanket on the bed. I'm still sleeping on a mattress sitting on eight milk crates, but I'm no longer on carpeting but rather on the aforementioned concrete floor, so there's a lot of shifting and sliding whenever I try to get into bed and during sleep. I'm probably going to have to readjust the crates daily. You can fill in the blanks in your mind what the rest of the place looks like. You've all seen a dungeon before--dark, dank, looks like it's freezing even when it's not, spider webs everywhere...all it's missing is a wooden torture rack, some handcuffs, and a mistress holding a cat-o-nine tails. There are some signs that someone once lived there, such as the posters on the wall and the many hangers of clothes dangling from the pipes. But it's still a dungeon. The dream I had the first night I slept down there was really fucked-up. Basically, I dreamed that I was at an airport with my family going on a family vacation, which we've never done before, and all of my ex-girlfriends kept walking past me in the terminal, then I saw some woman, I don't remember who, and I just had to be with her, so I traded in my ticket for one to go where she was going. Then a friend who worked with me at CEDA and who in real life helped me clean the old apartment Saturday showed up in tears, and I remembered that I had agreed to take a trip with her. So I tried to trade in my ticket again, and my uncle basically ripped me a new one, which he has done before in the past when I fuck up, and I woke up with that lovely feeling I seem to have of disappointing everybody and letting people down. That's a hell of a feeling to have after any dream; this time, I looked around after I woke up and realized that I'm 30 years old and living in someone's basement. Disappointment? Letting everyone down? That's an understatement. So yeah, I was feeling pretty low at that point.
But I've heard that it's always darkest before the dawn. The next day, Friday, I was lying in bed virtually all day because my body was sore from the move and because I didn't want to come from under the covers because I was freezing. I turned the ringer to my cell phone off at 3:30P and took a nap, then woke up an hour later to find that I had a message. It was Mary, the woman from Chase who gave me the first interview back on Thursday, Jan. 26. She offered me the job. I said yes. I screwed that up too, though, because she only offered me $10 per hour instead of the $11 she told me during the interview. I accepted a bit too soon. I asked her today if there was anything she could do about it, and she said she could write to the suits in HR and see if my request can be obligated, but that's it. I really don't care though. I got a fucking job! It's not minimum wage, so I'm not worried about an extra dollar an hour. That's what over a year of unemployment will do to you. It's Thursday through Monday from 8A-3:30P, allowing me Tuesday and Wednesday to do homework for my classes on those nights. I got the drug test and fingerprints done today, and I officially start next Monday.
I'm doing this blog entry at school because I still haven't gotten a connection for my phone line back at the dungeon; therefore I can't get on the internet. The phone company came out twice, but both times they told me that they only had to work outside and didn't have to come in, so I wasn't home. But Saturday, while I was cleaning the old apartment, the guy called me on my cell phone and told me that apparently I'm missing a wire and that they did have to get in to the basement to fix it. My play aunt and her daughter, who lived downstairs from me all 18 years of my childhood, live on the second floor of this building, so they would have a copy of my keys to let anyone in, except I haven't made a copy yet. The guy told me he would come back yesterday, when I would be home, but he faked me out. He said at about 3:30P that he would be there in an hour, but I never heard from him again, and he turned his cell phone off so I couldn't contact him. I had to call the company this morning and set up a whole new appointment, and they won't be back until Thursday. The good news is that DirecTV will be out tomorrow. Dungeon schmungeon--nigga's gotta have his phone line and cable. But I'm so happy to be employed again. I should have the money saved up by the time this semester is over in May to make a drama-free transition into a new apartment. I just have to remember to save a few hundred bucks for a moving crew. As I sat in the U-Haul with my dad Wednesday night, both forearm muscles and biceps as well as my stomach muscles severely cramping, hands swollen, shoulders hurting, fingers throbbing from being pinched between boxes and walls and furniture, nose and throat sore from all the dust, and feeling nauseous again, I told him as far as the next move: "Never again." I'm throwing out a lot of the stuff that I moved, and I'm hiring people to lift the rest of the shit. I freely admit--I'm soft as Pillsbury, and I am not going through this nightmare again.
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