Thursday, July 13, 2006

Not Ready For Prime Time

My Memphis friend and I are taking things very slowly, and it's exactly what I need. She left today after spending two days here at a quaint little local inn near Ernest Hemingway's childhood home in Oak Park. We didn't check it out, though. She preferred to go into the city and see the sites downtown, such as the Art Institute. We were going to go to Sears Tower, but there was "no visibility" when I called yesterday, and there's no point to seeing the Skydeck with no visibility. I treated her and my family to dinner last night, and thankfully, my family did not embarrass me. Much. Of course, I didn't let her meet my dad yet.

But with her lack of experience in relationships combined with the horrible results in my past relationships, making the first move is going to be a laborious effort for whomever does it. There's a lot of trust to be built still before a physical aspect blooms. And that's what I want. Everything in the past has happened so quickly that I didn't have a chance to build trust with my partner. So this time, it has to be very slow. It has to happen this way, no matter how tempted I am to push further. Any future we have together depends on building a mutual trust, and we both have our reasons for taking it very slowly, but we have to. Oh, there were many chances I had to "bust a move," so to speak, such as standing under an umbrella in the rain, or walking through the city, or cuddling on the couch watching television, or hugging her goodbye at the airport. But it just wasn't quite the right timing. Not yet. When it's meant to happen, it will.

But God, I miss her terribly already.

7 comments:

GrizzBabe said...

Hopefully, the time you are taking to build a foundation of trust will pay off big dividends in the future in the form of a loving, healthy relationship.

Anonymous said...

Excellent!
The most important thing is that you are with a fine Black woman, and not some sleazy little white girl. You found someone with pride and dignity.
My brother says white girls are good for easy humping and to give him money. But they are all whores.

Dre said...

Your brother must spend a lot of time in Wisconsin.

female.RN said...

I don't think the anonymous person sees the ignorance in his post. If he did, he wouldn't be so quick to admit that his brother (the black trash that he apparently is) goes to white trash women for sex and money. LOL. I wonder if his brother goes to Filipino women for meaningful conversation and Hispanic women for a good home-cooked meal?

Um, anyway... CONGRATULATIONS on the start of a new relationship! I have also started a new one. And it's fabulous. Sounds like you guys really had a nice time and are both going at a pace that is comfortable for each other. Yay!

female.RN said...

Oh, this is Amanda, by the way. I made myself an account on Blogger... I like the format (though a couple things about it are pissing me off). So... hi, from Cali!

Dre said...

Hello Amanda! Glad to hear from you, hope all is well.

Mistress Regina said...

Instant gratification can be exciting and delicious.

To nurture both the lady and the woman, though, requires more of a long-term committment.

It sounds lke you have respect and appreciation down which is getting to be more and more a rare combination.

Always remember and never forget, what you give is what you get.